Ep 25: How Are the Human Design Profile Lines Designed to Socialize and Make Friends?

As we decondition, we may find that we need to form connections and make friends differently than we were conditioned to believe! So, how does your Profile naturally socialize? Let's talk about it!

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[00:00:00] On this episode of New Paradigm Human, we're talking about how the profile lines are designed to socialize and make friends.

[00:00:29] Hello, everyone! So, last week, I posted something on my Twitter, if you don't follow me on Twitter, I have the link below, about how the first, third, and fifth line profiles socialize. What inspired me to talk about this topic was noticing some discomfort that I had in normal social environments lately.

[00:00:51] It's currently Mercury retrograde, I think I'm just really reviewing a lot of the social My relationships and social [00:01:00] life right now, and I've definitely been feeling very emotional about a lot of things in that area of my life. And I had this evening where I went to a block party in my neighborhood. I was invited there actually by a family member who was going to be there for some reason, even though they don't live in the neighborhood.

[00:01:17] So I went with my husband and a new friend of his. And I was just feeling really uncomfortable like looking around at a lot of other people who are chatting and making connections and all the neighborhood people who've lived there for a really long time and all know each other and I was just feeling kind of uncomfortable.

[00:01:35] odd and out of place. And there is definitely some truth to possibly feeling rusty socializing after coming out of a pandemic. Like all of us have a lot more people are working from home, a lot more people are spending more time alone at home, or maybe lost a lot of the community structure that they had prior to that.

[00:01:54] And overall, I think this is just something that's happening in society as we move into the Aquarian age, but I'll get into [00:02:00] that a little bit later. But it kind of felt like it was more than that. I actually feel like I've been socializing quite a lot lately and trying to remember the ways that you make connections with people when you're first meeting them.

[00:02:11] But there was just something about this environment that was really hard for me and I felt really bad about it that whole night and the next day. And I was just ruminating on like, why had I felt so uncomfortable and why did I in that type of social environment where everybody is just chatting and trying to make connections.

[00:02:30] And I was watching my husband, who always has such an easy time in these types of environments because he has a lot of interests that are super common where I live. Like he cycles and he, uh, Knows a lot of bikes and often he just shows up on a bike. So it's like an automatic way for people to be like, Oh, I like your bike.

[00:02:47] And then talk about cycling. And he just knows a lot of things that are really interesting to people here. Like it's just a common sort of part of our culture here. Whereas, as we all know, by the fact that this is what I do with my life, talking about [00:03:00] human design and. The new paradigm and star seeds and all of these kind of out there things that it's maybe a little bit harder for me to make a connection with the average person who lives in my neighborhood.

[00:03:11] And I've accepted that about my life, but I was just kind of watching him and watching all these other people. And so that night I was just really trying to figure it out. That's the first line profile in me. I always want to get to the bottom of why I was feeling that way. Also Virgo sun and Virgo moon.

[00:03:24] If you know, you know, um, But like, why was I feeling that way and why did it feel so unnatural to me? Because at this stage, I pretty much trust my own inclinations. Like, I am not really trying to be someone that I'm not. I mean, I lived a lot of years in a very mainstream work environment, a very mainstream social environment, where I had to develop a lot of these skills of talking to people I didn't know and making small talk and observing that type of hierarchy where you had to behave and dress and show up in a certain way every day.

[00:03:56] And that was fine, but that's not my life now. So it's not like I [00:04:00] don't know how to exist in a more normal environment. But basically the conclusion I came to is I was like, you know, I think this is like a fourth line thing versus a not fourth line thing. And so the first thing I was thinking about is how do people with only first, third, and fifth lines, so like a 1 3, a 3 5, a 5 1, that type of person, socialize?

[00:04:24] And why does that type of purely social environment feel so uncomfortable? Because at this gathering there was really nothing else to distract you or to do than to grab some food and talk to strangers or, or maybe friends, but I didn't really know anybody there besides like my family. Whereas I was thinking about some other environments that I walk into, like a workplace or somewhere that I volunteer or a class or something like that, where I feel like it's it's much easier for me to make connections.

[00:04:54] So I was just thinking about sort of the difference between that fourth line and the one, [00:05:00] three, five. And then I kind of got thinking about the six and I left the two out of this because the second line profile is by nature antisocial, I would say. It's, it's the hermit. So that heart of someone, since we all have two profile lines, we'll always have an effect on how that person is, but it's going to be balanced with one of the other lines.

[00:05:20] And the the two is never going to be how you're really socializing. Like that's almost your way of moving yourself away from the other ways that you socialize so that you can spend time on your natural gifts. But we'll go all through all of this in a little bit more depth in a second. But I just wanted to take you through my thought process and my emotional process because I know I'm not the only one who thinks And I think as we move into the age of Aquarius, as we're moving away from these hierarchies that we were relied on to help us make connections to help us socialize and help us form communities, things like churches or showing up at an office every day, or even just purely your [00:06:00] family, because I think we're seeing as we move into the Aquarian age, not that family is less important, but people are stepping away from the idea of family feeling like they have to center their family if that's a group of people that they don't resonate with.

[00:06:13] If it's people who don't accept them or they're on a more of a healing journey and they've had traumatic things happen within their families and that's it. It's like a hard place for them to be. So we're moving into a time where maybe people are letting go of those structural ties that used to be fully baked into society.

[00:06:33] It was almost like everybody had that type of tie or almost everybody. And if you didn't, then you were living a really alternative life, but that's not the case anymore. A lot of people are living outside of those structures in their daily lives, even if they're living in the middle of city or they're living near family or.

[00:06:49] Even if they're working maybe a somewhat traditional job, if they're not seeing those people every day and they're working in this more digital world, which is also very Aquarian, then we just don't have [00:07:00] those to rely on. So I've been seeing a lot of people talking about how hard it is to make friends.

[00:07:04] And how hard it is to make connections right now. And I really think that this is to blame for that. We're just in this strange time of transition, really the absolute beginning of it, because the pandemic affected this so much, and it's a whole new landscape for everybody to navigate. And so I wanted to use human design to just shine some light on.

[00:07:23] Ways that you can make socializing and making friends work for you because we all deserve to have those people in our lives who understand us and enrich us. It's just that we all kind of need different things from those relationships. And I think profile is a really good place to look for that, to understand what you need.

[00:07:39] So everybody has two profile lines, like one, three. 1/ 4, 5/, 2/ 5, 3/ 6, things like that. And if you don't know your profile, you can go to my site, peergenerators. com, to my chart calculator. I will link that below too, but it'll say profile and I'll have your two numbers. In my signature offering for generators and [00:08:00] MGs, which is called the Glow Up, it's this massive, like, course and information library with all these different tools and exercises and info to help you live your best generator MG life.

[00:08:11] It's all broken into, like, six steps, so it's, like, very clear. But a few months ago, I covered, uh, like the vulnerability of the second, fourth, and sixth profile line. And so to me, the second, fourth, and sixth lines all have sort of a commonality and the first, third, and fifth lines have a commonality in how they interact with the world.

[00:08:32] So if you have, if you're a two, if you have a two, four, or six in your profile, I recommend checking out the glow up and check that out, but I'll talk a little bit about that here too. But basically, the second, fourth, and sixth profile lines, they're a little bit more receptive. They are a little bit softer.

[00:08:52] It's like the, they have this openness to the world that they need to have in order to fulfill [00:09:00] their role. The second line has this openness to people always watching it doing the things that it loves, its natural talents. There's always this little crack, even if that second line hermit wants to shut the world out, which it naturally does.

[00:09:18] There's always this little opening where everybody can see them and call them out to share their natural gifts with the world. So there's always just like that, that openness, that like soft little part of the belly almost that's exposed to the world, because otherwise the hermit would just. Be totally locked away and wouldn't be able to, to have that natural way of sharing what it, what it has its talents with the rest of the world.

[00:09:40] The fourth line has this openness and friendliness to the people around them. The fourth line is always looking for someone to connect with and exchange resources, and it's looking for people who have also something to give in return and it, it may sound transactional, but it's not really, it's finding [00:10:00] someone who.

[00:10:00] Reciprocates and wants to support you in some way. And that's really what makes the world go around in so many ways. So the fourth line is has this openness because that's what allows it to connect with people so easily. The sixth line is also a little bit soft and fragile and it's that softness that allows it to have a unique perspective and a lightness that kind of allows it to step back and maybe get a little bit above everything and observe it and really take it in.

[00:10:34] The Sixth Line is also a little bit in its own world, but it really likes to have an eye on what everybody else is doing, and that's a lot of the way that the Sixth Line learns and comes to embody their true self. And so in order to observe everything and have this broader understanding of the world, the Sixth Line has to be a little bit open energetically in order to take all of that in and process it.

[00:10:59] And [00:11:00] basically, my thesis. on this entire topic is that the way that we've been taught to socialize is centered around the fourth line experience of friendship and relationships. A lot of people have fourth lines. I don't have the exact percentage of the population off the top of my head, but it's a lot of people.

[00:11:20] And fourth lines are the one, it's like the networking and the getting out there and the meeting people and the making personal connections and all the best jobs will come through your friend. And you know, what do you have to offer and what do they have to offer? And so many of us are taught that that's how these things work.

[00:11:35] And what I started to realize was I'm surrounded by fourth lines all the time. Everybody in my immediate family that I live with and then also my parents who I also spend a lot of time with because I live near them, they're all fourth lines. And so I was raised in a fourth line household and absolutely conditioned in that way.

[00:11:54] And honestly, it wasn't a bad thing. There's part of me that really misses that part [00:12:00] of myself that lived life as a fourth line. I poured so much energy and time and resources and mental and emotional capacity into my friends and connections. And as I've deconditioned, I have completely changed in that way.

[00:12:17] And it's not that I don't value the people in my life, I just go about it a little bit differently. Because I watch my friends. Parents, they are constantly socializing. That's a very productive thing for them because that's how a lot of their opportunities come about. It's how they receive things. It's how they give things.

[00:12:36] And so they're always hosting people at their house, always inviting them here. always going out with them, always doing activities, always traveling, always texting and writing and calling and connecting their friends with each other. And my husband and my stepson to a degree are the same way. They are also two for a hermit, so it's not like they don't ever just spend time in their space doing their natural thing because they do.

[00:12:59] But my [00:13:00] husband in particular spends a lot of time nurturing his network of all these people that he rides bikes with every week and he's always helping people out with their bikes and helping them out with their cars and then they're bringing him this and they're bringing him that and they're inviting him here and so he's always on his phone, you know, texting, maintaining these relationships, even though he's kind of a, he gets It's like super focused on his projects and he sometimes has a hard time keeping up with communications but that is not true of his friends at all because it's just very clear to him and natural to him that that is a very productive activity and a link to how he expands his world.

[00:13:39] And so being around all these fourth lines all the time, sometimes I start to question myself a little bit or feel a little bit bad about how I navigate things. Because for me Those purely social environments, just gathering for dinner, just gathering to hang out around food and talk, going to a party, something like that, just doesn't feel totally natural [00:14:00] for me.

[00:14:00] It's not that I don't like to go, I actually do like to go to those things, but I don't really go there to make connections. I go there more to just kind of vibe and observe and enjoy where I am and have a good time, but it's not, expressly to get to know other people necessarily or to begin to extend resources that I have and and investigate, you know, consciously or unconsciously what the other person has and how we could help each other because that's what's really going on on a fourth line level, even if people don't totally realize it.

[00:14:28] And so for those of us who do not have fourth lines, it can be not as satisfying or not feel as good to be in those environments and you might feel a little bit out of place or it just isn't where you're going to make friends. So let's walk through this line by line and talk about how each of these profile lines would naturally connect with other people and maybe what they're looking for out of a connection or friendship because it's not necessarily exchanging resources.

[00:14:56] I definitely wouldn't say that that is the basis for what I'm looking [00:15:00] for in a friendship because I just don't have a fourth line in that way. But of course, it's perfectly okay if you do. And obviously all of us will have Two of these energies going so you may have a fourth line, but you may have another one of these lines and that will also be something that you need.

[00:15:16] So it's not just one thing for all of us. It's kind of a combination, but that's why I really wanted to talk to the first, third and fifth lines. The people who only have those three lines because we don't have that fourth line. And of course, neither do six twos, but we'll definitely talk about the six line too.

[00:15:36] So for first line people, if you have a one in your profile, I feel like what we're seeking is other people who understand the world in a similar way we do. You might have similar interests with that person. I do tend to see more. First lines gravitating toward the same types of things. For instance, I was talking to a first line friend [00:16:00] last night who I maybe wouldn't have guessed would be into something like true crime.

[00:16:03] We've never talked about that before, even though we've known each other for a long time. But I found out she was super into true crime too. And I have a theory that first lines in particular are really interested in true crime, not so much because of, I don't know, um, the entertainment of it, or the goriness of it, or the whatever, but because it helps us get down to the deeper reasons behind what makes people do things, what motivates people, what makes them tick, and it just helps us understand humanity better.

[00:16:32] I feel like I've learned so much about human nature on every level by listening and watching True Crime. And it can be incredibly helpful and educational in helping people understand why certain things happen, why certain things kind of go off the rails and how to avoid those situations that end up in people hurt or dead or whatever.

[00:16:53] Because I would say the defining feature of a first line profile is someone who's curious. So it's like, as a first line, you're [00:17:00] seeking other people who are curious about the world in the same way as you do, or maybe have even come to a similar fundamental understanding of how the world works, what's important, what's valuable.

[00:17:11] You want to be understood and you want to understand other people. So it's not so much about exchanging resources or creating those connections or building your network. For us, it's just being understood, being curious together. Someone else who's curious, curious about you, you're curious about them.

[00:17:27] There's something about that person that helps you understand yourself or your world or the world. So I'll often see that first lines will like share an interest, something they both enjoy learning about. Like you might go see a documentary together. You might get together to just have a deep introspective conversation.

[00:17:46] You might have a skill that you're both interested in developing. So for first lines, a lot of your connections are going to be around depth. and understanding and sharing that same foundation or [00:18:00] sharing a similar curiosity. As I said, the second line is inherently antisocial. So your second line is what's going to help you protect the space and time that you need to engage in your natural talents, putter around the house, just kind of be not perceived and not seen and just fully in your things that you're naturally good at and that you like to do and help you develop those things because you're going to need to take a break from whatever else is going on out there because ultimately that's going to be a distraction to your second line that wants to really spend that time developing your natural talents away from the world.

[00:18:38] the influence of other people. So that's really what that second line is doing for you. And so if you have a second line, your socializing is going to happen through mostly your other line. Some might happen. Some connections may be formed through people seeing you being really good and natural at what you're doing and seeing your gifts and wanting you to be part of what they do.

[00:18:59] [00:19:00] So like you could definitely get like my stepson and both and my husband have both gotten job offers and things by people who happen to observe them. doing what they do best. And so that did lead to connections for them. But it's, uh, yeah, it's kind of a funny energy because it is by nature antisocial.

[00:19:18] And so any kind of connection that happens as a result of that is really just because you were able to take that time away and dedicate that to developing your natural gifts. Third lines are really looking for people that they can have an experience with. I am not necessarily looking for someone that shares every single value or viewpoint or any of those things that I share.

[00:19:46] I'm more looking for someone who wants to be Go and do and experience something with me. Maybe it's someone who wants to see the same movie, who wants to take the same day trip, who likes to go and sit at a certain rooftop bar or cafe [00:20:00] or check out a new store or restaurant or local happening. The third line energy is that alchemical energy.

[00:20:08] It's related to the kitchen's environment. All of the variables like our environment, things like that are also on this one through six. structure just like our profile. And so kitchens, which is also my environment, is that third line. And so it's more about like getting out there and sharing an experience with someone.

[00:20:25] Third lines would really develop friendships by traveling with someone or even working together and you're like sharing that space. space and that group of people and that just that daily experience. You might go to a party together and the point isn't necessarily to make connections there. I actually, the third line kind of loves the feeling of being anonymous.

[00:20:47] That's like a little bit of the energy of that line. So I love nothing more than to go to a party where I don't really know anybody and there aren't any really social expectations of me and maybe there's like a cool area to wander or someone's house to [00:21:00] look through or you can just kind of be there to like be seen and hang out and just soak in that You also might bond with someone through an experience you've had.

[00:21:10] Maybe you both survived something difficult and you meet in a support group, or it definitely doesn't have to be a negative experience. You've both traveled to a certain place and learned a certain language, and so that would be a good foundation for a connection for you. And it's just more about vibing, being, being present in the moment.

[00:21:29] And that's really what I We'll bond third lines together. Coincidentally, one of my best and longest lasting friendships was with another 1 3, unbeknownst to us, because this was a decade before I knew about human design. We met because we were both studying abroad in the same city, and we just, you know, we Had the same interests, the same curiosities, the same stuff we like to do, and we just went out and we had experiences together and it was so fun and that was so meaningful for me.

[00:21:56] Now we've come to the fourth line, and so for the fourth line, what you're [00:22:00] looking for are people who you enjoy being around. Someone that you can find a common point of connection, of interest. You might realize that you know the same person, you lived in the same city at the same time, and they seem like a person that you would want to support.

[00:22:18] You would want to be there for them. You would want them to be there for you. You would want to bring them some soup when they're sick, or help them get a job if they lost their job, and that they have that same type of care for you, like they value you as a person, you enjoy being around them, you enjoy the energy that they bring into your life.

[00:22:39] But it's also important that they are offering resources to you as well. So it's not really necessarily enough to just vibe together. You want to feel like what you're giving them because you're just, fourth lines naturally are very giving to their friends. So they're gonna take you to the airport early in the morning if you need a ride, but it's really important that that [00:23:00] person is also generous enough to do that back to you.

[00:23:02] So you're looking for someone who has that same same level of generosity as you and someone who you actually care about and who you actually enjoy spending time with. It could be someone who has very different skills from you. I actually think that's probably best in a fourth line. You don't necessarily want people who are too similar to you, like you want enough common ground.

[00:23:22] You want to find some common like touch point of like an interest or an activity or. someone that you know mutually, but then it's really cool when you can expand each other's horizon. So you're looking for people who can offer you something that maybe you don't have, and you can also do the same for them and offer them something that they don't have.

[00:23:39] So I often see like the fourth lines in my life, you know, my husband is really good at like fixing cars and doing all these things. So like, he offers a lot of that to my family who are also fourth lines. You know, my parents really Love how generous he is with always, he'll always detail their cars and help them out and help them figure out what to buy.

[00:23:55] And he does a lot of other things too. But that's just kind of one, one area where he really has something to [00:24:00] offer them that is really valuable to them. Like my dad shares an interest in cars and things with my husband, but my husband just knows so many things that my dad doesn't know. And conversely, my dad is always like showing up, bringing us cookies.

[00:24:12] And, um, he and my mom love to invite us on trips and they often pay for a lot of those things. So that's kind of their way of just sharing resources that the other person doesn't have and therefore expanding both person's life and their horizons and what's available to them in the world. So you're just looking for someone who you enjoy, who you value.

[00:24:35] And who seems to value you and where you can really be your fully generous self and know that that person will return that to you. Because it's, it's not really healthy for fourth lines to be in a relationship that's one sided at all. You want to know that what you're extending to the other person will also be returned to you.

[00:24:53] And sometimes some people might look at it as like, Oh, you keep score all these things. But for fourth lines, it is kind of important to keep score. [00:25:00] It needs to be reciprocal. So if you feel like you're doing something and always there for another person, they're not there for you, then it's okay to kind of withdraw from that friendship or just keep it very limited in a way where you still feel like it's equal.

[00:25:13] Fifth lines, I have noticed, really bond over wanting to solve a similar problem or having a similar goal. similar mission. I feel like a lot of Fifth Lines will meet at work or volunteering or maybe taking a class together, sharing some kind of interest, some desire to make the world better. My Fifth Line friends are the ones who are like organizing the neighborhood cleanup and the school fundraising and all those types of things.

[00:25:43] Fifth Lines are problem solvers. That is the really the role that you're playing in the world. So who else out there is seeing the same problems and really wants to contribute to a solution. You want to be around people who take things seriously and really [00:26:00] care and basically just want to make your world, your family, your community, whatever it is a better place.

[00:26:07] And those are people that you're going to feel a real kindred spirit with. So fifth lines aren't necessarily just looking to socialize. I feel like you're often looking to do things together. I have a fifth line friend, and I also have a lot of fifth lines in the rest of my chart. So even if it isn't my main profile line.

[00:26:25] It's definitely like an energy that's strong for me. And so a lot of times we would socialize by signing up for like a trash cleanup together, like signing up to weed, uh, a neighborhood park or something. So it seems a little odd, but for us as a friendship, that really worked because that was a really meaningful activity for both of us.

[00:26:42] And it was really positive and a really good bonding point to want to make something better together to want to improve something to want to solve a problem. So if you're a fifth line, you'll likely make connections with like minded kindred spirits who are wanting to make the world a [00:27:00] better place. Or just improve something in some way and it could be that they have a problem that you didn't even know about and that expands your world and you have some other thing that you like to dedicate your time to that they don't even know about and so you can bond and like expand each other in that way to now we've gotten to the six lines and six lines are kind of interesting because similar to second lines there is a little bit of like an antisocial nature to the six line not so much antisocial but just like a bit more receded, a bit more like pulled back from the chaos of whatever.

[00:27:31] So again, for Six Lines, it's, it's not about exchanging resources. It's more going to be like people who are embodying the same things as you. Six Lines is all about embodiment. So Six Lines have had experiences, they've learned, they've separated the wheat from the chaff. from the chaff and decided what it is from their experiences they would like to take with them, what they would like to become, what they would like to shine as a beacon for in the world.

[00:27:56] So six lines are really going to unite with other people who [00:28:00] are living a similar lifestyle to them. I've seen a lot, a lot of my human design friends are six lines. And I've noticed that they will form strong friendships with like other people who are doing human design and living that human design lifestyle.

[00:28:13] So you want to be with people who are like living a similar lifestyle to you. Who are thinking the same, who kind of like have the same values in a way and are shining those into the world. And so, like I said, the sixth line needs space from what's going on. It doesn't want to be like, down in the chaos and having the experiences and going all over the place, especially once they turn 30, because obviously younger than around 30, six lines are basically third lines.

[00:28:38] So the six line might really enjoy having a friend that you get together to talk to and you share like what's going on in your life, what's going on in their life, people who are just interested in getting that perspective and living a similar lifestyle and looking at things the same way. So thank you everyone for joining me today.

[00:28:55] I hope that this helps you understand how you are designed to socialize and make [00:29:00] connections in an authentic way in alignment with the role that you're here to play. I did a slightly extended version of this. in the glow up which is my signature offering for generators and manifesting generators where I also went through and listed not only what each of the 12 profiles so both of your profile and combinations are looking for in friendships but also some concrete Actions that you could take that would help to cultivate those friendships in your life if you were to make those habits or just try one every week or every month and see where that takes you.

[00:29:35] So if you're interested, I've linked the glow up below, but again, thank you for joining me and I'll talk to you [00:30:00] soon.

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